Okay. Listen. I'm making this between us because I respect John's privacy. [ more or less ] I'm not threatening you. I'm going on the very much off chance that you don't actually understand human psychology.

John has been victimized. You are his aggressor. What actually happened and why is irrelevant, that is the dynamic you have now. What that means is that every time you speak to him, every time you're in the same room as him, that's as good as an attack.

It needs to stop.